30 DoT Day 5 – Love Blog Prompt

Exploring the Idea of Love

“Love” is used to express the beneficial “desires” a person has.  We use the word when describing our passion for God, family, country, fellow man, ideologies, jobs, pets and even inanimate objects and desires (by no means a complete list of things we “love”).   “For God so loved the world …” John 3:16 documents the Christian view of God’s love for his people.  We further feel a love/desire for our family’s, country’s, fellow man … even our pets with an affection and compassion.  Each of these objects of affection and desire have different roles in our lives, and influence our perception behind the intended formal definition of love as it is used between individuals.

Between individuals this is the most desired of emotional expressions in my opinion.  It is definitely well studied and argued about (whether to continue or to separate from).  From a casual desire to fatal attraction, love can have narrow to broad acceptance and expression.  As creatures of thought we express our love for people places, things and thought.

Love touches us physiologically, mentally and spiritually.  Sometimes it is as simple as stimulation of our five physical senses, a taste, touch, smell, sound or intuition – the Pavlovian response to the cold, rich feeling and taste of ice cream as we hear the sound of joy and laughter of the person eating it and intuitively know it is good and desire the same (while a loosely used example, much the same can be analogously describe our attraction for one another).  Love, hopefully a mutual exchange with romantic exchanges of the heart, it affects us all.  Some how a formal definition simply doesn’t do the sensation and desire justification:

noun

verb (used with object),loved, lov·ing.

verb (used without object),loved, lov·ing.

to have love or affection for another person; be in love.

Verb Phrases

love up, to hug and cuddle: She loves him up every chance she gets.
https://www.dictionary.com/browse/love

Love, while not directly, being something of desire has implication for a sustained relationship on some level.  I have developed my own cue for assessing such as the ABC’s  of relationships:
  • Attraction
  • Adoration
  • Affection

 

  • Benevolence
  • Beatitudes

 

  • Compromise
  • Chastisement (for those not ready for the ramifications of physical interactions)

 

  • Sacrifice
Each of these relationship elements have additional physical, psychological and spiritual attributes that, in my mind, have to be met for the continuation of a relationship.  The “A” portion of this train of thought is paramount for the initiation of a relationship, especially one that is loving.  The three primary components need to be expressed or communicated as a means of establishing (the “A” values), nurturing (the “B” values), growing (the “C” values) and sustainability (the “s” value – sacrifice) of/for a mutual commitment to the goals associated with a relationship.  Having an intimacy, passion and commitment to these ideas are all apart of the psychology behind love and romance.
The greater the time investiture it is often thought the stronger the “love”.  Others argue the distance and time apart between two people interested in each other’s love leds to an increased intensity.  Desire definitely plays a role.

Much has been (and will continue to be) written on the subject, more so than a simple blog can address.  My feelings on the matter is that the simpler a love is the better, too much thought only serves to complicate things and take away from the process of discovery (be it ice cream or someone).

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